The BDSM Beginner's Dictionary

Published on 20.12.2021 20:12

Ever since Christian Grey took on the role of Dom in "Fifty Shades of Grey" and brought up his submissive girlfriend Anastasia Steele according to all the rules of BDSM, bondage has become increasingly established in society. It is probably the most intimate form of love play. And rightly so, because who doesn't dream of being dominated?

However, there is much more to this topic than meets the eye than just "bondage & domination". Bondage requires absolute devotion, it reveals the deepest desires and dreams, even fears play a major role here. What does your love life look like?

Are you also looking for a little more variety in your lovemaking, would you like to get to know your partner in a different way or intensify your relationship? Then give bondage a try!

In this love game, there is an active and a passive part. The active part takes on the dominant role, while the passive part, i.e. the submissive or submissive part, allows themselves to be tied up by their partner. This division of roles should be clearly defined and clarified before the start of each session. The motto "safe, sane and consensual" always applies and should always be adhered to. Bondage is a game of trust in which the most secret fantasies and desires are acted out.

In addition to trust, consent, responsibility, respect and safety play a key role. Trust in a play partner is a basic prerequisite for letting yourself go and indulging in your passion. Communication is just as important. Talk to each other about how far you want to go, about taboos and agree on a 'safeword' that will make your partner stop immediately if you want them to. This is particularly important for your first attempts and steps where you don't yet know your partner's wishes and preferences. In this context, it is important to familiarise yourself with the basics of bondage before your first bondage session and to find out about the different types of restraints and material properties of the restraint utensils

In rope bondage in particular, it must be possible for the active partner to undo knots quickly and easily in dangerous situations to avoid accidents and injuries. There are almost no limits to the choice of bondage equipment. Whether it's a blindfold, self-adhesive bondage tape, a bondage rope or an exciting bondage set - you decide which bondage options you want to use. Start slowly with simple bondage games and feel your way to your limits together. This will not only lead to a more intense bond with your partner, but will also give you an insight into what you actually like. Try it out, expand your senses and gain your own bondage experiences!

What does FLR mean in connection with BDSM?

FLR is pronounced "Female Led Relationship" and represents a connection, a kind of leadership sovereignty when living together. There is a clear power imbalance here, but the female part shows the man what to do and what not to do. Here, the man is always in the submissive role and the woman in the dominant role. He is inferior to her in every area of the relationship.

What does TPE mean in connection with BDSM?

TPE is pronounced "Total Power Exchange" or also "Total power in connection with sado-masochism". There is strength of will, dominance, sadism and a submissive servitude to men, whereby the submissive feels the power of his mistress in all situations. The difference here could not be greater. She determines his life, his finances, his sex life, even to the point of "enslavement" and loves to flaunt her immense superiority. Men who offer themselves to such submission actually feel fulfilled by it. It even makes them happy.

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