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Almost everyone knows about sexual fantasies. They are the key to good sex and reveal a lot about our childhood. In many cases, however, sexual fantasies have nothing to do with sex at all. Sex fantasies can also be dangerous and destructive and have an impact on the psyche and the relationship.
Danger increases desire. She wants him immediately and greedily pounces on him. Today there's no annoying, time-consuming preliminaries and courtship. She doesn't care where. Fuck the bed, she wants it in the office, on the bonnet, at a party or in the loo of an aeroplane. She likes the thrill of being caught having sex. She just wants to concentrate on the essentials. It's best if they both get straight to the point. Wild, uninhibited, fast sex. The focus here is on sexual desire and eroticism. It starts in the brain, which is the most important sexual organ. This is where we decide what arouses us. Anything that is perceived can be a turn-on. During pleasurable, highly erotic experiences, the body produces the endogenous substance phenylethylamine, which creates a strong desire for sex. Studies show that women and men have and develop relatively different fantasies. Women would like to exchange caresses, whereas men more often dream of having sex with several women.
NON REALISED DESIRES
Sexual fantasies can enhance or complement sex. The main thing is that it is colourful and dangerous. Sexual fantasy consumption has become increasingly important. However, practice cannot keep pace with this. Nowadays, we are controlled by the media without even realising it.
myLadies: "WHAT ROLE DOES SEXUAL FANTASY PLAY IN MY HEAD?"
Almost everyone has a wild sex life. Those who speak against it probably have a strong sense of shame and guilt when it comes to sexuality. Apparently, fantasy gives people the opportunity to escape life restrictions and try out new things. These can be activities or partners. In real life, they lack the courage or the opportunity to do this.
"The key to our sex life lies in our fantasies. Orgasm can only be achieved if it works with wish fulfilment. These are forbidden desires".
Sexual fantasies give us respite from everyday difficulties. They lead to immediate physical relaxation and emotional relief when you feel like you're being overwhelmed by anxiety, conflict and depression. Fantasy is a kind of further development of our childhood games, a kind of over-the-counter self-meditation.
AGGRESSIVE NEIGHBOURISHMENTS ARE DECREASED
Many people have longing desires in their head cinema. They embody the desire for contact, even if it is not necessarily realistic. Sexual fantasies allow aggressive tendencies to be reduced.
"Sex fantasies can be dangerous."
From time to time, such impulses and endeavours go beyond the normal scope of human aggression and slide into the realm of the murderous and pathological. They often serve as an outlet for a person's sadistic urges. In many cases, they can be a warning sign that provides information about possible dangers. In people who have been traumatised, fantasies can also have a destructive effect on the psyche and relationships. The content and structure depend on the traumatised childhood and adolescence. Traumatised children are more prone to sadistic fantasies.
There are also tender fantasies, even though they have had horrific experiences and have been abused. However, there are also people without recognisable childhood trauma who nevertheless have terrible or cruel fantasies. It is therefore possible that fantasies of destruction and aggression are not only caused by trauma, but in some cases also represent an advantage for our development. They allow us to expand our consciousness and imagine experiences without having to have experienced them.
myLady's advice: Please be careful! Even if you think you have the most tolerant partner, perhaps you shouldn't tell them everything. Love also needs its secrets.
Here you can find part 1 of “Secret Sex Fantasies”
