BDSM Lexicon Abbreviations and Terms

D

• Dom = dominant (determining) partner who finds the stimulation and excitement in the control, the power over the sub
• Devot = submissive → Sub

E

• Erotic Power Exchange (EPE) = erotic power exchange; a BDSM relationship that emphasises the sexual aspect, as the shift in control from the passive to the active partner does not affect everyday life; there they are equal; the opposite is → Total Power Exchange

F

• Femdom = (female domination); female dominance in BDSM
• Fetishism = sexual fixation on objects, materials or even body parts, such as breasts, feet or belly button
• Flagellation = (also: flag); Engl. for flogging; the infliction of physical pain by beating with a whip; a flagellant is a sadomasochist with a penchant for whipping
• Flogger = special whip (strap whip) with a short handle and soft cords made of materials such as suede, latex or plastic
• Footjob = the stimulation of the male member with the feet
• Frogtie = position in bondage in which the legs are tied to the thighs with the ankles (frog position); the wrists in turn are fixed to the outside of the leg restraints on the respective side or behind the back

G

• Gerte = percussion instrument for → chastisement; a thin, flexible stick
• Geschichte der O = 1954 sadomasochistic novel by Pauline Réage with detailed depiction of female submission
• Golden Shower = urinating on someone for pleasure → urophilia

H

• Collar = Collars (made of leather, metal or latex) are usually worn by →bottoms as a "symbol of ownership" of their dom
• Hogtie = Position in bondage in which the bottom lies on his stomach and his wrists and ankles are tied together behind his back. The bound wrists and ankles are also tied together. The shorter this connection, the further the upper body is raised. The upper arms or knees can also be tied together

I

• Injection = a practice in the context of → clinical eroticism; the injection of (sterile) fluids, e.g. saline solution, into the body using a syringe and a needle (cannula); a distinction is made between subcutaneous (under the skin), intramuscular (into muscle tissue) and intravenous (into the vein) injections; medical knowledge is a prerequisite

J

• Japan Bondage = also Shibari; artistic bondage for aesthetic reasons, it is only used secondarily to immobilise the bottom; in Japan itself it is called "Kinbaku".

K

• caviar = faeces
• clinical eroticism = (also: Clinic games, white BDSM, doctor games); a sexual practice with references to medical examinations or hospital stays, usually in the form of a role-playing game of doctor and patient
• gag = object to insert into the →sub's mouth to prevent him from speaking; particularly popular is the ball gag (also: Ball gag), which consists of a rubber ball with 2 straps that are connected behind the head, with the ball in the mouth

L

• Paint, leather, latex = popular materials in BDSM → fetish

M

• Masochism = the pleasure of pain and being tortured; after the involuntary namesake Leopold von Sacher-Masoch
• Mummification = form of bondage in which the entire body or individual body parts are wrapped with suitable material to restrict the sub's freedom of movement, e.g. with cling film

N

• Pinwheel = (also: Wartenbergrad; pinwheel); a medical instrument used as a toy in → BDSM, it consists of a handle with a small wheel with spikes at the ends, which is rolled over the skin with light pressure
• Natursekt = urine
• Nine-tailed cat = a multi-stranded whip with braided ends → flogger

O

• Objectification = treating the sub as an object as part of an educational measure, e.g. as a piece of furniture
• O-ring (Ring of O) = Symbol from the → "History of O"; an iron ring into which another small ring is embedded by means of an attached ball; identification symbol in the BDSM scene

P

• Paddles = flat percussion tool made of leather or wood
• Pegging = a sexual practice in which a man is anally penetrated by a woman using a strap-on
• Petplay = erotic role-playing game in which the sub slips into the role of an animal, behaves accordingly and is treated as such; particularly common: Ponyplay, dogplay & pigplay
• Paedophilia = sexual preference for feet → fetishism

Q

• Queening = refers to a sexual practice in which one partner places their genitals on the other's face for oral stimulation

R

• Risk-aware consensual kink = BDSM rule of thumb; risk-conscious, consensual sexual behaviour
• Rigger = Rigging artist; the active restraining part of bondage
• Ropemarks = The marks of the rope on the skin after bondage.

S

• Sadism = satisfaction and pleasure through torturing and humiliating others; sadism is named after the French nobleman Marquis de Sade; the opposite is → masochism
• Safeword = agreed code for cancelling a BDSM act
• Session = (also: Play); refers to the period of time during which BDSM practices are carried out
• Slowword = Special form of the safeword with which the bottom does not indicate that the play should be stopped, but that the top should take it slower or more gently; often practised in the form of the traffic light system
• Spanking = spanking someone's bottom with bare hands or aids such as → paddles, etc. spanking
• Safe, sane and consensual = BDSM basic rule; safe, with a clear mind and with mutual consent
• Sub = bottom; the submissive partner who voluntarily gives up a certain part of their self-determination during a session for the sake of pleasure
• Suspension Bondage = suspension bondage; bondage in which the bottom is suspended horizontally, vertically, upside down or upside down from a harness
• Switch, Switcher = someone who does not want to commit to one role in BDSM practices, but switches between Dom and Sub

T

• Tease and denial (T&D) = to arouse and deny; sexual practice to increase arousal without reaching orgasm
• Temperature play = during a → session, toys and accessories are used for additional stimulation that deviate greatly from the body temperature of the bottom, e.g. ice cubes or wax
• .E.g. ice cubes or wax
• Total Power Exchange (TPE) = total power exchange. for total power exchange; a BDSM partnership concept with a constant presence of power imbalance even in non-sexual areas of life, e.g. work, family, finances; there is no demarcation between the session and real life
• Tunnelling games = games that cannot be stopped once they have begun, e.g. administering potency, sexual intercourse or sexual intercourse.E.g. administering sexual enhancers, rubbing with burning (thermal) creams, ginger or essential oils, using nettles for urtication